Stephen Little, UKCP-accredited psychotherapeutic counsellor
What i offer
I offer psychotherapeutic counselling and can help you understand what is underlying your anxiety and depression and how to move forward in your life. I also specialize in bereavement, loss and spirituality. I'm based in Eastbourne, East Sussex.
If you're looking for a friendly, professional psychotherapeutic counsellor then please contact me to arrange a free introductory session. After meeting me you can then decide if I'm the right person to talk to. My approach is Gestalt, which means that I will work actively with you to explore your awareness of what's needed and possible in your life.
Contact me to arrange an introductory session: stephenlittlecounselling@gmail.com
What you can expect from me
I will explore with you how are relating to yourself and others because most of our challenges (and possibilities) arise from how we relate to ourselves, other people and our circumstances.
I offer Gestalt counselling and therapy. Gestalt works by increasing awareness of our needs, behaviours, thoughts and feelings in the context of our values, relationships and life situation. I draw on Internal Family Systems Therapy too and will help you explore the different 'parts' of you and the relationships between them.
Growth emerges from increasing awareness, the felt sense of safety and trust, acceptance, creativity, and taking responsibility for ourselves. Judging, directing or controlling rarely nurture growth. For this reason I won’t tell you what to do. At the same time, I won’t just sit and listen and nod! I will always try to respond to you usefully and, sometimes, this might mean challenging you.
I will focus with you on how you can best create satisfaction, and find both meaning and purpose, in your current circumstances.
Contact me to arrange an introductory session: stephenlittlecounselling@gmail.com
Finding your way through anxiety and depression
If you're feeling anxious or depressed then you're not alone. Anxiety and depression are very common in our society and talking things through can really help. Together, you and I can figure out what's giving rise to these difficult states. Not every anxiety or depression are the same and they can arise from very different situations, for instance, perhaps you've been feeling anxious since the end of a specific relationship, or perhaps you've always felt anxious. We'll explore when these difficulties emerged, how you're coping, and what you want for your life. We'll explore how you relate to yourself and others, how your values can be useful guides, the patterns in your life that might be working against your satisfaction, and what you might be able to do that will make a difference.
Living your life after bereavement
Bereavement can be a bewildering experience that can leave you feeling lost, alone, shattered, stuck, numb, no longer yourself, fearful of being a burden to others, and feeling unstable or unfamiliar to yourself. Your sleep, eating, concentration and memory might be disrupted. You might have lost touch with happier times, good memories, and hope. Meanwhile, other people might be encouraging you to move on and 'put it behind you' or might not seem to really want to understand or talk about what you’re going through. You might be feeling overwhelmed by emotion, out of control, or unable to think and plan, especially if you suddenly have new responsibilities. Your normal ways of coping might not feel like enough right now. As well as the death, there might be aspects of your relationship with the person who has died which need to be grieved.
By exploring your experience in bereavement counselling with me you can begin to find ways of responding to your bereavement that you can feel happier about (including important and meaningful ways to feel connected to what was best about the person who has died and your relationship with them). This might include making sense of your loss, understanding your thoughts, feelings and behaviour in context, identifying what you need or want to do, and committing to look after yourself in a kind and understanding way. This is all the more important if you have experienced things during bereavement that might not seem normal and which other people don't want to hear about. I offer a non-judgmental relationship in which all aspects of your experience can be honored and explored in terms of what they mean for you and your life.
Exploring loss and change
Loss and change can be challenging to work through. This applies to any significant loss, for example of a job or career, romantic relationship or friendship, health, status, expectations of the future, or creative inspiration. Even loss of illusions can be a very unwelcome experience when those illusions have served an important purpose in our life. We are desiring beings and losing what we desire can lead to grief, and to anger, and to shame - especially if we believe we've lost what we desire because of fear.
Buddhist teacher Trungpa said that disappointment can be the beginning of enlightenment. All loss and change can be opportunities to step into new awareness through grief and loss counselling. Simply starting where you are by exploring with me how you're affected by loss and change, and how you can best support yourself, can lead to new understandings about what is - and isn't - important, needed or desirable in your life right now.
Integrating near-death experiences and other non-ordinary spiritual experience
Non-ordinary experiences, such as near-death experience for instance, can be both positively transformative and also highly disruptive. It can take time and patience to work through the significance of such experiences and integrate your understanding in how you live. It took me over 10 years to make sense of an unexpected out of body experience (that had many features of a Near Death Experience as measured on the Greyson Scale) which happened to me during a Holotropic breathwork retreat.
In my experience all the great religious and wisdom traditions emerge from direct experience of that which is most real. The fruit of all religious and spiritual experience is practical and includes greater openness to, and capacity for, loving kindness and wisdom. This often manifests very simply as increased care and kindness in everyday life and greater trust in the face of uncertainty and suffering. This can include reduced fear of death and dying. In my experience, the hallmark of the spiritual is that it takes care of both the psychological and physical needs of persons and communities.
I offer psychotherapeutic counselling to people of all religious and spiritual traditions, and none, to explore questions of 'who am I?' and 'how should I be in the world?' and 'what do I serve?' This includes those who feel something fundamental is lacking in their lives at the moment, who are questioning their place in a particular faith tradition, and those who have had non-ordinary experiences, whether spontaneously or as a result of spiritual practices.
Getting clearer about what you need, value and do in the world
Just like rooms, our lives can get cluttered with stuff over the years so that a living room can end up feeling more like a store room, or strangely empty. Counselling can be a useful, safe, private and exploratory way to reflect on your life, clarify your priorities, and find new excitement. In counselling you might identify attitudes and behaviours that simply don’t fit you anymore, or interests, pleasures and abilities that you’d forgotten about. You might feel ready for something new but not quite know what that is yet or how others in your life might respond. Counselling can help you clarify priorities and move ahead (or stay right where you are if this is what you choose!) with a clearer sense of your needs, purpose, values and commitments.
My qualifications, accreditation and fees
I hold a Masters, Diploma and Certificate in Gestalt Psychotherapy from The Gestalt Centre London/London Metropolitan University and a Certificate in Humanistic Counselling from The Gestalt Centre London. I have a Masters in Modern European Art History from the Courtauld Institute, London.
I'm a Higher Accredited Registered Member: Psychotherapeutic Counsellor (HARPC) with the UK Association of Humanistic Psychology Practitioners (UKAHPP) and United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP).
I charge £60-£70 per session and offer concessionary rates from £45.
Other professional registrations
I am registered with, and accredited by, the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) as a psychotherapeutic counsellor. Both the UKCP and UKAHPP are members of the Professional Standards Authority. I'm also a member of the Society for Existential Analysis.
Contact STEPHEN
Contact me to discuss an introductory session
I recommend meeting me once or twice before deciding if you think I am the right person for you to talk to. I charge £60-£70 per session and each session is 50 minutes. I offer a reduced rate for those who need it.
Email me at stephenlittlecounselling@gmail.com or telephone me on 07789 907169. Alternatively, use the contact form below.
